Sex Toys vs. The ‘Real’ Thing

nk”>dildos because that’s a sensation you just can’t get from a human. I have this Lelo Magic Wand, and it’s pretty spectacular. It was a great invention – I’d have to say that’s probably my favorite . . . Some days I wish it would come alive!
Adult DVD Empire: So you like toys that offer something that, for a variety of reasons, no guy ever could?
Joanna: Or girl. I mean, nobody vibrates.

This same subject came up in a podcast with Karla Lane, she suggested that ‘guys take a Hitachi with them when they hook up with a girl, so that they can use it on her and make sure she’s 100% satisfied.’

VICE conducted an interview earlier this month with sex therapist, June Tomaso-Wood. She discusses the fact that women tend to be more comfortable using sex toys than men, both during sex and masturbation. June was asked ‘Do girls like toys more than boys?’ Her response, ‘Well, it’s true that some men find it emasculating to admit that they want or need a device in their sexual play—even if it’s a girlfriend’s vibrator, which could potentially be stimulating to him as well—because young men want to be viewed as virile, sexually self-confident, and capable of satisfying a woman. There’s a lot of shame around sex for men in this culture, so even though masturbation is not necessarily taboo, because of course everybody masturbates, a lot of men choose to keep their mouth shut about it.’

In 2011 Life Science shared figures from a study about vibrators. Over 3,000 Americans between the ages of 18 and 60 shared their attitudes and opinions on how they feel about the sex toy. The study ruled out that men are threatened by vibes.

Here are some opinions shared in the study:
“I think a woman with a vibrator is open-minded in the bedroom.”
“I would rather be the one—or the thing—giving her pleasure but maybe that’s me.”
“Vibrators…love them. My partner can use them with me or without me. I don’t feel intimidated by them. They can often do things better than I can and can often enhance a sexual experience.”

It’s all a matter of opinion.